Melissa Moss Counselling

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Person-Centered Counsellor (MNRPC)

Dip. Social Science-Counseling Major, at Southern Cross University Australia.

Dip. Grief and Bereavement

Cert. (level 2) Health and Nutrition and understanding eating disorders

 BS (Hons) Psychology (ongoing)

Member of The National Register of Psychotherapists & Counsellors (NRPC)

 How can counselling benefit you?

When we have experiences we generally go through various mental and emotional processes that enable us to take in the information, make meaning of it, and then go on to operate in the world around us accordingly. However when certain experiences effect us with intensity it can inhibit how much of that experience we take in; for the sake of survival at the time, and thus further effect how me make sense of it, leaving us confused and afraid and with a sense of disconnection from the self and others, which can go on to effect how we operate in the world; presenting as anxiety, negatively effecting our behavior, relationships, work life etc…

Therefore counselling can enable you to mentally and emotionally revisit that experience with the support of a counsellor (who is trained to support you with any uncomfortable emotions or thoughts that might arise) and together working creatively and holistically to enable you to process and integrate the experience so you can make sense of it and go back to a place of full functioning.

In my practice I incorporate:

  • Person-Centered Therapy– your needs are the primary guide, not a method or theory, rather only theories and methods that support your individual needs are introduced.
  • Neurosciences/ Psycho-education: I teach my clients about the effects that trauma and abuse can have on the nervous system, from various resources such as PODS, Peter Levine’s work on somatic experience and much more..
  • Mindfulness, Sand-tray, Interactive Visualisation, Non-Violent Communication (NVC), Humanistic Psychology and more..

 I have experience working with:

Depression, Anxiety, Dissociation, DID, Identity, Alcohol/Substance Dependence, Eating disorders, loss, grief and Bereavement, OCD, Relationship issues, low Self-esteem, Self-abuse/harm, survivors of Sexual Abuse and childhood sexual abuse, domestic abuse/violence, and much more…

The best way out is always through.

Robert Frost.

A little about me:

My name is Melissa Moss and as a woman, mother to 3 amazing souls, friend, counsellor and community member I would like to share with you a little about myself and the foundation my counselling is built upon.

I currently work with people who’s gender identities vary: non-binary, transgender, female and male, from the ages of 16 and up.

My role as a counsellor is to work ‘with’ you, using talking therapy in a gentle, natural, non-directive and non-invasive way.

Using a non-directive approach doesn’t mean i sit back in an aloof way; that essentially neglects your needs. In fact its the exact opposite! I actively listen to what you are saying and not saying, in order to reflect back to you your true nature, beyond what you might have been led to believe of yourself or about an experience you have had. But i do it in a way that is deeply sensitive and aware that it is ‘you’ that knows best and is in the lead and ‘you’ that needs to inform us both the direction you want to go down. I dont poke and prod for more information, i stay ‘with’ you.

This way of processing develops a real trust in the self. One that most people have never had. We are born into systems that constantly control, instruct, judge and direct all that we do.In therapy we work to undo all the ‘shoulds’ until you get to the point where you know the difference. Your language will change from ‘I should…’ / to ‘I feel…because I need…so I will….’.

Self acceptance is the first step towards becoming the best of yourself. Despite how horrifically terrifying your thoughts might be or how estranged you might feel from yourself; i absolutely believe that it is the conflict between our external conditioning: how we ‘should’: feel, think or behave, which is polar to how we really feel, think and want to behave, that it is causing so much inner turmoil, that weakens our connection to our-self and others.

Remember you feelings, thoughts and behaviours are informing you in one way or another. There isn’t always a literal translation, but there is always a reason.

So if your thoughts are extreme and scaring you, then maybe they are trying to get your attention, to inform you that somewhere within, from somewhere in your past, you were in such an extreme situation that you felt scared… and now your thoughts are trying reflect this experience and process it so you can move beyond it. However that wont happen if we judge and dismiss them by diverting them towards ‘positive’ ones, that will only create more longterm distress. Our mind and feelings are our greatest ally, lets learn more about them and what they’re trying to express.

Education is the key and you are your greatest teacher!

 “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

― Carl R. Rogers

So if you feel this resonates with you I invite you to come along for a free consultation.

I have a  beautiful private office in Dartington.

For more information please contact me on:
Mob: 07843 159737
Office: 01803 847904
Email: mel@melissa-moss-counselling.co.uk

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